Your divorce is in the past, and you have a parenting plan and visitation schedule to follow. While everything is laid out in front of you, it’s still possible that you’ll run into some challenges.

For example, exchanging custody of your children is easier said than done. This is particularly true if you don’t get along with your ex.

Here are some easy to follow tips that can ease the tension:

  • Choose a safe location: If you have any concerns about your safety, it’s best to choose a public location when exchanging custody. Doing so at your house or that of your ex is inviting danger.
  • Bring someone along with you: This person doesn’t have to say or do anything. Instead, they’re there to reduce tension and act as a witness should things take a turn for the worse.
  • Show up a few minutes early: Showing up late will anger your ex, thus putting the exchange in a bad spot from the start. When you arrive early, you take this out of the equation.
  • Don’t look for an argument: Even if your ex angers you, such as by doing something with your children that you asked them not to, it’s not worth the fight. Take some time to cool off before you address your concerns.

At first, you may find it stressful to exchange custody of your children. Fortunately, as you and your ex get used to this, you’ll find it easier to stay on track.

And if things don’t get better, such as if your ex violates their visitation schedule, you may need to learn more about your legal rights for seeking a modification.