A lot can happen in a short amount of time. For example, you may have been surprised at how quickly your marriage unraveled and you found yourself heading for a divorce. Whether your divorce was amicable and easily settled or you and your spouse fought for every decision, you probably had many mixed emotions when it was over.
Perhaps that is why you are considering remarrying your ex-spouse. While you may have friends or family members who are shocked or quick to discourage you, it may be comforting to know this is not an uncommon step for divorced couples to take. Nevertheless, it is not something you should do without careful thought and wise counsel.
Step carefully
You may have your own personal reasons for wanting a fresh start with your former partner. For many who choose this path, the single life what not what they expected, and they want to return to a relationship that is comfortable and familiar. It is also possible that you and your ex have gotten past the issues that lead to your breakup. If you still have feelings for your ex and think that perhaps your divorce was a mistake, you may wonder if it is prudent to remarry and try again.
While it may be difficult to ignore those emotions, it is important to remember that emotions are only part of your decision. Your divorce may have cost you time, money and even friends. You may have struggled financially for some time before and after the divorce, and there may be issues of trust you have not resolved. Some important steps you may consider before re-tying the knot include:
- Have many open discussions with your ex about the causes of your divorce.
- Be honest with yourself about your reasons for getting back together.
- Keep your expectations realistic, and communicate those expectations to each other.
- Take time to date each other before jumping into marriage.
- Do not rush to tell the children you may be getting back together.
- Schedule time with a marriage counselor or participate in a marriage workshop together.
If you remember the trauma of your divorce, it is wise to keep your eyes open and set your emotions aside when preparing to remarry your ex. About 60% of remarriages end in divorce. You may want to protect yourself with a prenuptial agreement that can anticipate some of the issues you may face during your marriage. Additionally, speaking with a Florida attorney may provide you with solid advice and guidance for preserving your rights the second time around.
